Why Change Might Be Harder For You

Why Change Might Be Harder For You

The ability to adapt and change is an essential skill for running a business. 

It’s the skill that helped some businesses thrive during a global pandemic. Here’s the twist though, Our brains are wired to look out for danger and protect us, and whatever looks and feels familiar will appear safe and comfortable to our brains. This is often the root cause of self-sabotage of new behaviours and why so many people abandon their New Year resolutions. 

Two things I have noticed that all high-impact advice has in common.

  1. It’s simple, but not easy

Things like sleeping without your phone, having a good morning routine, speaking to yourself with kindness, and showing up consistently. All are simple to achieve on paper but very difficult to maintain in practice. These small simple changes are often the bedrock to shifting your lifestyle to a space that brings you more peace and pleasure

  1. It takes time to work, so you have to have faith.

A good morning routine did not feel good for the first week and I did not see the full effects until month three. Speaking kindly to myself felt awkward and inauthentic at first, because I was not comfortable with the language or the voice. Some of the things I tried in the distant past were so not me in hindsight, swimming for instance! 

Life is not a sprint and we have a lot more time than we think. Where I see clients have the greatest success is not when they radically shift their entire routine at once. Its where they make one realy well thought out change, that well aligned with their goals and likely to have the biggest impact for the smallest effort. Once that change is well embedded they look to the next step. This can take months, but you are not simply “going to bed without your phone” you are rewiring your neural pathways and training you brain to find the new behaviour comfortable and soothing. 

So why can’t we stick with our changes?

Here’s the rub, the less agency and control you have over your life the more difficult consistency is, and therefore the less likely you are to implement and stick to routines and healthy practices. That’s not your fault, you have more hurdles to overcome.

By less agency and control I mean your life is impacted by things like:

  • Owning a business
  • Neurodivergence
  • Being a parent
  • Being a carer
  • Working shifts
  • Having a health condition

Any one of these can, without warning, upset your plans for an hour, week, or month. Throwing your plans, long or short-term, making you think on your feet and pivot. It’s frustrating. 

So next time someone says “We all have the same 24 hours”….or even worse “It’s easy I don’t see why you can’t manage it” remember it may be easy for them, but that doesn’t mean it is for you and that does not make them a better person, or you a worse one.

Coaching can help, it is easier to see the woods for the trees when you know your values, strengths and what’s really important. It also helps you to find the positive in a whirlwind of broken promises and plans. A compass so you can always find your true path when all the pivoting has made you a little dizzy. 

Community and gentle accountability can also help. Finding a community of individuals who can help you to stay on track and keep you focused on what is really important to you. 

 

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